MOM COMPARING

Something I have been thinking a lot about lately is mom shaming/mom comparing. It's crazy that these phrases are even in our vocabulary but they are. Social media adds even more pressure to moms. Comparing yourself to another mom because her house looks like its straight out of House and Home, her baby constantly looks happy, she looks well rested with make up on and her hair freshly highlighted, they have time to do activities everyday, she has a beautiful healthy dinner on the table, a cake baking in the oven and fresh flowers in every room of the house...you know what I'm talking about here, and although it looks beautiful it all sort of just makes me want to BARF.


Lately, I have found that the more time I spend swiping away on social media each day the more I fall into this horrible trap of comparing myself to other mothers. And worst of all I think I have even fed into that notion that life looks pretty "honkey dory" at our house by posting a picture of an area of our home that I thought looked nice, being careful not to include the pile of SH*T i just threw into the corner so it wasn't seen in said picture.

Social media has become a "false reality" of what life is like. Mother's posting pictures simply because it is aesthetically pleasing to the viewers eye. Doesn't it feel so good once you get all those people pressing the heart or thumbs up button!? Be honest. You may say you don't care about the likes and comments but then why are you sharing these private things on social media anyways? You want to feel good and you want to connect with other people.

Why does this feel so good to us? It's actually scary that it does. But you know what, when your home alone with an infant all day and all night for that matter, you get pretty lonely. The reality is, your partner goes back to work, and you don't see your friends that much because they are living their normal day to day lives. It makes sense that a lot of moms turn to social media to connect. It makes sense that you would use social media as a platform to talk to other moms. Its comforting to know that even though you are feeling a bit lonely you can always browse your social media accounts and feel a connection with the outside world while your sitting on your living room floor wading in a pile of toys with a baby attached to your boob.

I would love to know what other's think about this topic.

B.